Andrea on why she wouldn’t take an ex back; Baron on being a recovering alcoholic
Andrea Torres ought to give a crash course on how to look fab after a breakup. Take it from her. Don’t let a broken heart make you wallow in gloom when you can bloom, instead.
It’s been barely four months since she and Derek Ramsay parted ways, yet the Kapuso actress is hotter than ever. She has decided to live happily even without the “ever after.”
Andrea is happy being busy with her upcoming series on GMA 7, “Legal Wives.” She portrays one of the wives of a Marawi Muslim royalty (Dennis Trillo). The two others are played by Alice Dixson and Bianca Umali.
In real life, marriage is not yet in Andrea’s agenda. Her heart is still under renovation until its permanent occupant finally arrives.
Here’s my chat with Andrea:
What would it take for a guy to make you fall in love again?
Sincerity and consistency.
Would you take an ex back?
Probably not. I’m always 100 percent invested in my relationships. I will fight for it with all I have because I don’t like having “what ifs” in life. So, it takes a lot for me to decide to walk away. If that happens, if we end up parting ways, I know I already did everything.
What’s your advice to girls about moving on after a breakup?
Reflect on what happened, get the lesson and allow yourself to grow. I truly believe that everything that happens in our lives has a purpose.
With that in mind, if things don’t turn out the way I expect them to, my faith assures me that everything is going according to God’s plan, and that it is for my own good. When we pray, we usually talk about the things that we want. But more than that, we must not forget to pray for His will to be done, too. Let Him. Allow Him to guide you and everything else will follow.
You’re hurt because you loved, so now you have to focus that love on yourself. Do things that make you happy, feed your soul, take care of yourself so that the next time you fall in love, you will have so much more to give.
Are you happier when you are single or in a relationship?
I embrace whatever season I’m in and make the most out of it. The hardest feeling is realizing you just let time pass. When I’m single, my aim is to discover more about myself. I try to be the best version of myself so that when a relationship comes along, I’m sure that I’m ready and I’m whole. My partner deserves that. Either way, I’m happy. I want to stay on the positive side always so I attract more positive things my way.
I always say, in jest, that I live in Mandaluyong because I am an outpatient of the “Mental Hospital.”
I’m really buang (crazy) by nature. We all have a crazy streak in us, whether we admit it or not. That’s why the new movie, “Tililing” by avant-garde director Darryl Yap is quite a hot topic. When the official trailer was released, it gathered 1 million views in less than 24 hours. The controversial film is now streaming on VivaMax.
“Tililing” is about interns in an asylum played by Candy Pangilinan, Donnalyn Bartolome and Yumi Lacsamana. There, they meet mental patients portrayed by Gina Pareño, Chad Kinis and Baron Geisler.
Through their stories, the interns get to enter the world of the patients. This made them question if the patients are really the crazy ones or they are. But as the French say, Un peu de folie est necessaire (A little craziness/madness is necessary).
Here’s my chat with Baron:
What is the main message of your film?
That everyone has a story of brokenness, betrayal or loss. Some people may not be able to deal with these issues easily that may lead to mental illness. So, let’s be more kind and compassionate to one another.
Tell us about your journey as a recovering alcoholic.
To be honest, it’s challenging because I’m powerless over a lot of things. I just have to work at it one day at a time, embracing God’s grace and focusing my eyes on His plan. His will, not mine.
I have to acknowledge that I’ve got a drinking problem and work on my recovery program 24 hours a day. Grateful that I am being guided by my sponsor and counselor who are just a phone call away, 24/7. My daily gratitude list helps a lot, too.
What’s your message to the people whom you have hurt due to your drunken outbursts?
My message is that I put into action the things that I have realized and learned. I’m tired of saying sorry. It doesn’t work that way for me anymore. I’m tired of being tired, that’s why I humbly asked for help from professionals. I don’t have to prove anything to people I also don’t owe anyone anything anymore. The best gift I can give to my family and friends is my continuous journey to recovery.
What’s your advice to alcoholics who refuse to change?
I cannot give anyone advice since we all are different human beings. I just want to tell them that there is always hope, and you are not alone. It’s not embarrassing to seek help. What is embarrassing is if we continue to live a reckless life without purpose and meaning.
I am afraid to go crazy again. To be put in jails and institutions. All aspects of life will be good and happy as long as I remain faithful to the program. I am grateful for being blessed with such a loving and understanding wife. As long as I sustain my sobriety, blessings will continue for me and my family.
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