BB Gandanghari reminds columnist to refer to her as a woman
BB Gandanghari took to Instagram to assert her gender identity as a woman after a columnist referred to her as “Rustom”.
In an Instagram post on Tuesday, July 23, she reminded followers and columnist Ricky Lo about misgendering. She posted a screenshot of messages where Lo referred to her as “Rustom” and with the pronoun “him.”
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#misgendered… 💔 A Friendly Reminder🙏 . . What is misgendering? For people who are transgender, nonbinary, or gender nonconforming, coming into their authentic gender can be an important and affirming step in life. Sometimes, people continue to refer to a person who is transgender, nonbinary, or gender nonconforming using terms related to how they identified before transition. This is known as misgendering. Misgendering occurs when you intentionally or unintentionally refer to a person, relate to a person, or use language to describe a person that doesn’t align with their affirmed gender. For example, referring to a woman as “he” or calling her a “guy” is an act of misgendering.💐 . . Paging @therealrickylo. With all due respect, Tito Ricky but I don’t think I can allow anyone to misgender me or even address me by my deadname. My preferred gender pronoun is HER and SHE, and you may call me BB. or by my LEGAL name Binibini… 🌈 . . #LGBTQ #Bigotry #NoToDiscrimination #Offensive #lgbtqRights #Transgender #Empowerment #GenderEquality #FriendlyReminder
“Rustom” is the name BB was born with when she was assigned as male. When she announced in 2009 that she was transitioning to become a woman, she adopted her new legal name “BB Gandanghari”.
Misgendering, as per information BB shared from the website Healthline, is when people “intentionally or unintentionally refer to a person, relate to a person, or use language to describe a person that doesn’t align with their affirmed gender.”
“With all due respect, Tito Ricky but I don’t think I can allow anyone to misgender me or even call me by my former name. My preferred pronoun is HER and SHE, and you may call me BB. or by my LEGAL name Binibini,” she said.
Being transgender means being born with a gender identity different as to what was assigned at birth. Most transgender people choose to transition so that their bodies can be aligned with their gender identity.
According to American LGBTQ+ organization GLAAD, trans persons find being associated with their birth name as a “tremendous source of anxiety.” In its tips for allies of trans persons, GLAAD advises to listen to a trans person before using his or her preferred pronoun. In case the wrong pronoun is used, it is advised to “apologize quickly and sincerely.” JB
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