Pia Wurtzbach. Image: Screengrab from YouTube/Anas Bukhash أنس بوخش
Still fresh from her very private wedding with Scottish entrepreneur Jeremy Jauncey in March, Miss Universe 2015 Pia Wurtzbach made a case for women who are not keen on having children, saying a woman’s worth shouldn’t be based on her ability to bear children.
In an interview with with Arab entrepreneur Anas Bukhash, which was uploaded on his YouTube channel last Wednesday, Aug. 2, Wurtzbach admitted that she hated being asked about having children at this point in her career.
She further said that people should stop putting women on the spot by asking them when they are going to have kids, although she would want to become a mother someday.
“People just ask me, ‘When are you gonna have kids?’ After I got married, I just kept hearing that question. I do wanna have children someday. But not now. Not at this point in my career and my life. Jeremy [Jauncey] is also fine with that. But in the future, we would love to have a family,” she said.
The former beauty queen pointed out that some women may have priorities and commitments other than having children.
“As an empowered woman, I think your worth as a woman is not measured by you being able to bear a child. There [are] really so many more things to a woman that just bearing children,” she said.
“Some women do not want to have kids. Some women want to be amazing in their careers, they want to put all their effort [into] that. Maybe they want to take care of their parents all their life. Maybe they want to commit their life to social work. Maybe they just have different plans. That doesn’t mean that a woman is less valuable or less capable or less able,” she continued.
Wurtzbach said she wants to defend women who “choose not to have kids,” saying she salutes them for doing so.
“I really want to stand up for women who choose not to have kids. I respect that, I salute that. I want to, eventually, but I’m going to be honest — I’m hating that question on [when will you have kids] lately,” she said.
Jeremy ‘filling the gaps’ in Pia’s heart
During the interview, the beauty-queen let out a smile as she spoke about how Jauncey “fills the gaps” in her heart, saying he is a combination of various roles “molded into one person.”
“I am so blessed and grateful that somehow, some way, God said that this is the person who will fill all the gaps in your heart. And he just filled all the gaps in my heart. I don’t feel that, ‘I don’t have a dad anymore.’ I have a mentor, best friend, lover, father figure, and coach, all molded into one person,” she said.
Wurtzbach then said that while her husband had an “amazing childhood,” he’s the type of partner who was strong enough to handle someone who is a “handful” like her.
“He has so many roles in my life, not just my husband. Like he knows about the struggles I went through. Fortunately, for him, he didn’t go through that. He had an amazing childhood, the best kind of relationship with his parents and siblings,” she said. “I was given somebody strong enough to help me and be strong for me. It works. I’m a handful but it works.”
Wurtzbach also shared that she and Jauncey “always” communicate, and are “transparent” with each other at all times, including their finances and “gender-based roles or expectations.”
“There’s no sugar coating, no flowery words, no beating around the bush. We talk about everything. We went through a whole list of topics that we needed to cover before we got married,” she said. “I’m surprised to learn that there’s so many couples who don’t talk about these things, the awkward things, but you gotta talk about it for sure.”
“We [also] talked about our gender-based roles or expectations in the relationship. We talk about these ‘expectations’ of each other. You gotta talk about it, even situations that aren’t happening yet but they could happen. They’re easier to talk about when you’re in a good place. If you guys are happy, then you should talk about the hard things,” she further added.
Wurtzbach previously spoke about being asked whether she wants to have kids in the future last June, where she pointed out that it’s “so personal” on her Instagram Stories. She also dismissed pregnancy speculations in the same month.
She tied the knot with Jauncey in Seychelles last March, although she confirmed their union only two months later. EDV