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Maxene Magalona opened up on the most important lesson she learned from her marriage, after admitting her separation from Rob Mananquil.
The actress advised everyone—single or in a relationship—to “give [themselves] to God” before entering a committed relationship, as seen on her Instagram page yesterday, Oct. 19.
“Give yourself to God before you give yourself away. I believe one of the reasons why most relationships don’t work is because people come into them with unresolved trauma [and] unprocessed pain from childhood,” she said.
Magalona encouraged the public to have “a very honest conversation” with a special someone instead of just dating and courting at the beginning of their relationship.
“Get real and vulnerable by discussing things like your past traumas, mistakes and heartaches,” she said. “…It’s nice to have fun [and] lighthearted conversations especially at the start of a relationship but I believe what will truly make it last is when we can just be completely honest with each other and have deep and meaningful conversations—especially the uncomfortable ones.”
For Magalona, these conversations can tell whether both people involved want to continue with a relationship and think it will work, saving both of them time and “unnecessary pain.”
“If you are currently in a happy [and] stable relationship, I encourage you to constantly ask each other how you feel and hold space for each other with no judgment,” she told the public.
“If you are in an unhappy relationship, it’s best to have an honest, heart-to-heart conversation and ask yourselves if it is worth holding on to something that isn’t making your soul smile anymore…,” she added.
Meanwhile, Magalona told single individuals to work on themselves first and “embody” the traits they are looking for in a partner
“Heal so that you can be a better human. Offer your healing to God and He will bring you in alignment with your soulmate. Never chase. Attract,” she said.
Magalona then sent love to those who went through breakups or divorce like her, as well as those who lost jobs or have been grieving a loved one, via another Instagram post yesterday.
The actress told those who are struggling that they are not alone and they should allow themselves to feel pain since people “learn and grow so much more” through it.
“…[You’re] not helping yourself nor anyone in this world by being miserable. We need you to shine and thrive. We want you to feel alive,” she said.
Magalona revealed her separation from Mananquil last Friday, Oct. 14, though speculations about it have been circulating since last January, when the actress talked about having a “sad soul.” /ra
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