Solenn Heussaff says bullies, haters hurt others to escape own pain
It’s hardly new that bullying carries with it far-reaching detrimental effects, with consequences lasting, for some, until adulthood. But it isn’t just the bullied who are made victims of the act. The United Nations Representative of the Secretary-General on Violence Against Children has emphasized in the past that whether it is done online or in person, the impact of bullying has serious effects to both the victim and perpetrator.
Solenn Heussaff has a thing or two to say about bullies, too. The model-painter-actress took to her Instagram last August 5 to share her thoughts regarding bullies and haters, saying that they are people who hurt others to escape their own pain.
“Haters/bullies. They want to inflict pain on others mostly because they don’t want to feel pain,” wrote Heussaff in her Instagram Stories. “Perhaps they try to distract you through intimidation or lies, so you don’t see their truth, their guilt, their own shame.”
But while it’s easy to put bullies in boxes and label them as inherently evil, Heussaff further wrote that the guilt and shame bullies feel stem from their own history.
“It’s deeply embedded from their history, their experiences, their upbringing,” said Heussaff.
“They want power because they just don’t want to feel powerless any longer.”
She, too, added that bullies need an “outlet” to release and vent their pain. “To really have power, [one] must have it over something or someone. But [it’s] never really about that person, that situation.”
Ultimately, Heussaff shared that bullies are only trying to control one thing: themselves.
“Those people [who] truly desire power, are actually only trying to control one thing… Themselves.”
The saying, “Hurt people hurt others” just couldn’t ring any truer. NVG
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