Lessons from stars’ biggest trials and ‘darkest moments’

We all have crosses to bear. Remember: It isn’t the load that weighs you down, but how you carry it. Even celebrities who lead such charmed lives have their share of “Calvary.” In observance of Holy Tuesday, I asked some of them about the biggest trials they’ve had to endure.

Coco Martin

COCO MARTIN: Name it, I’ve been through it all. It was a long, hard climb. I did odd jobs and even became an OFW. Fame didn’t come easy. I struggled in indie films before I made it to the mainstream. With the Lord’s guidance, my lola’s support and because of my devotion to the Nazareno, I was able to overcome all the obstacles.

Rita Avila

RITA AVILA: What can be darker than losing a 3-week-old son? I rose by holding on to my faith and trusting in God during that very difficult time. I [emerged from that dark period] through the love and understanding of my husband and friends. I rose by accepting to live with a broken part of me. But I can live even if I’m broken.

CESAR MONTANO: When my son Angelo committed suicide, there were so many unanswered questions. To make matters worse, I was in Bohol when it happened. I flew back to Manila immediately. That was the loneliest plane trip ever. Nothing could be more painful than a parent burying his or her child. I consoled myself with the thought that I now have my own personal angel up there.

James Yap

JAMES YAP: When I was just beginning my basketball career in Manila, I was disoriented and homesick. I wanted to go back home to Negros, but I didn’t have enough money for the fare. I had to commute daily to our team’s practice, and our meals were budgeted. I couldn’t afford to buy my dream rubber shoes. All my sacrifices have paid off. My faith in God, my family’s support and my fervent dream to become a great professional cager saw me through.

Andi Eigenmann

ANDI EIGENMANN: When I was judged by everyone during the time that the identity of my daughter Ellie’s father was being talked about … I was lucky enough to have the support of my loved ones. Those who really knew me behind the cameras made me realize how important it was not to let go of myself and, knowing the truth, not let others dictate [what I needed to do].

Zanjoe Marudo

ZANJOE MARUDO: When I was 16 years old, my Dad migrated to the United States. It was tough adjusting, because I was used to having him around. Dad always picked me up after school and used to watch my basketball games. But he often called me up to make his presence felt. That experience taught me how to be strong and independent.

BENJAMIN ALVES: Back in 2013, I found out that my mom had a brain tumor that needed to be removed immediately. Our whole family leaned on Him for strength, and that trial actually brought us closer together. God truly does answer prayers. My mom is alive and well, even after such a difficult battle.