(From left) Ben Wintle, Deia Amihan Wintle, Iza Calzado. Image: Instagram/@missizacalzado
Iza Calzado believes that every couple has their own set of experiences. But she pointed out that parenthood shouldn’t stop them from enjoying their lives together should they decide to tie the knot.
Calzado and her husband, entrepreneur Ben Wintle, were together for seven years before deciding to get married. At the time, she told INQUIRER.net during a brand launch that they could’ve had a baby then, but it was her initial fears that “got in the way.”
“From experience, if it’s your first time to live together, take the time to get to know each other on that level because there’s a lot that you will discover about one another,” she said while admitting she doesn’t want to speak on behalf of couples planning to get married.
The mother-of-one pointed out that life changes a couple when the pressures of marriage and parenthood come knocking. Yet she said it shouldn’t stop a loving pair from living life.
“Take trips you want to take muna as a couple because life changes. It won’t be the same,” she said. “And the energy won’t be the same. Do the things that you wanna do as much as you can. But being a parent shouldn’t stop you from doing things you used to do.”
On parenthood
Despite the “ever-evolving” journey of motherhood, Calzado still considers her and Wintle lucky to have the “best front-row seats” to the growth of their daughter Deia Amihan.
“We’re there to support it. She’s walking now and she’s ready to run. She knows when to proceed with caution without us telling her these things,” she said. “She’s matakaw (eats a lot). And she will communicate what she wants.”
Being a mother is “overwhelming” for the actress — although she had to thank her daughter for making it “more vibrant, colorful, and wonderful” — which got to the point where she always reminded herself to “let go.”
“Motherhood and parenthood will involve a series of choices you have to make for the realities you have now. My friend said, stop trying to do it all,” she said. “And I remind myself that when I feel I’m trying to do it all. I have to let go a little more. You have to get used to the fact that it’s not about you.”
Calzado already “made peace” with this realization, but having the initial urge to “do it all” was a “pleasant surprise” because she didn’t expect to be such a “hands-on” mother.
“As a mother, I never had an idea of being a perfect mother. I’m pleasantly surprised that I’m as hands-on as I am even with yayas around. I try to be there for her. Deia is so young but she’s getting older. I really have to be more mindful of how I am and how I react especially when she starts talking,” she said.