Andrea Brillantes. Image: Screengrab from YouTube/Vice Ganda
Without mentioning her ex-boyfriend Ricci Rivero, Andrea Brillantes advised her supporters to think of certain turn-offs when it comes to moving on after a breakup.
In a vlog with actor-comedian Vice Ganda on Sunday, July 16, Brillantes revealed that she’s the type of person who moves on by thinking about certain turn-offs regarding an ex-partner. Her split with Rivero was confirmed by the basketball player on Twitter last June 9.
“Gusto ko lang sabihin, minsan, kung hirap kang mag-move on, kailangan mo talagang isipin ang mga bagay na, ‘Talaga ba? Iiyakan ko ba ‘yung lalaking hindi nagpapa-laundry nang isang taon?’ Gan’un,” she said.
(I just want to say that if you’re struggling to move on from an ex, you really have to ponder what turns you off about them like, “Really? Do I have to cry about a man who doesn’t do his laundry for a year?” Just like that.)
The “It’s Showtime” mainstay then agreed with the actress’ remarks, saying being honest with yourself about an ex’s worst qualities can act as some sort of a reminder to restore your self-worth after a breakup.
“Mare-realize mo na hindi pala siya ganu’n ka-special, ‘yung pagmamahal ko ‘yung nagpa-special doon sa tao (You would realize that he’s not that special, it’s my love that made him special),” the actress said in response, hinting that she was “blinded by love” at some point in her life.
During the vlog, the “Drag You & Me” star said that she’s the type of person who trusts her gut feeling in relationships, which is usually proven to be correct after a breakup.
“Kapag tatanungin ‘yung ex ko lagi nilang sasabihin ako ‘yung controlling, lagi ako ‘yung possessive, lagi akong tama, pero napapatunayan ko po siya all the time,” she said. “Kapag nag-break kayo, madalas doon niyo malalaman lahat na ito na pala nangyari n’un. Ang daming nagsi-spill ng tea kapag nag-break na.”
(When I would ask my ex what kind of person I am, they would say I’m controlling, possessive, or I insist that I’m right. But I’m proven right all the time. When we break up, that’s when I find out about certain things that happened in the past. Many people would spill tea when we break up.)
Brillantes, who said it took her a month to move on from Rivero, then revealed that she eventually realized that “there’s so much more” to life than just having a boyfriend.
“Ang dami ko na kasing pinagdaanan sa life kaya bakit ako maga-ano sa lalaki lang, there’s so much more to this life than just one boy (I’ve been through so much in life so why would I waste my time crying over men? There’s so much more to this life than just one boy),” she said.
“In love pa ko n’ung pero parang may iba na eh, paano ko isisiksik sarili ko doon? Saan na ako d’un? Love na love ko pa siya, kinaya kong lunukin ‘yung dapat ‘di ko na lulunukin pero ganoon ko siya kamahal. Akala ko siya na pero kinailangan kong tanggapin na hindi,” she further explained.
(I was still in love but it looked like he has someone else. How can I insert myself there? I love him so much, I’m willing to swallow my pride for him because that’s how much I love him. I thought he’s the one, but I have to accept that it’s not true after all.)
Meanwhile, the actress confessed that she plans to sell a certain item that was given to her, as she noted that she’s the type of partner who loves giving gifts to a partner. She, however, didn’t disclose what that item was.
“Balak kong isanla kasi hindi ko na nakikita ang sarili kong susuotin iyon. Magkakapera pa ako doon kung ibebenta ko. May pang-shopping pa ko. Bakit isosoli ko pa sa kanya, ang gagawin lang naman niya ibibigay lang din sa iba iyon,” she said, without disclosing what that item was.
(I plan to pawn the item because I don’t see myself wearing it anymore. I might earn money from it. Why would I return it to him? He would probably give it to someone else.)
The Kapamilya star then revealed that she will never retrieve the items she gave her ex-boyfriend, although she didn’t disclose the identity of her former partner.
“Kapag kinuha ko kasi lahat ng ibinigay ko sa kanya, wala na siyang gamit sa condo niya. Hindi ko gagawin ‘yun (When I take back everything that I’ve given him, he won’t have anything left in his condo. I will never do that),” she said while laughing.
Brillantes earlier revealed during a cover interview with lifestyle magazine Preview that she gained “inner peace” after her separation with Rivero.
“Sobrang nakatulong ‘yung break-up kasi [doon ko na-realize] na [hindi na] ako baby. Yung inner peace ko, nabuo ko na sya eh (The break-up helped me because it made me realize that I’m not a baby anymore. I’ve formed inner peace within myself),” she was quoted as saying. EDV