Bangs Garcia on parenting without a ‘yaya’: ‘It feels so liberating’
Bangs Garcia has taken married life and motherhood in stride after welcoming baby Amelia last December.
The actress currently lives in the United Kingdom with husband Lloyd Birchmore, a Filipino-British businessman. Garcia, 31, revealed that living abroad means they do not have a househelp.
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I’m proud to say that Lloyd & I are very #HandsOnParents. When I say hands-on, NO HOUSEHOLD HELP/NO YAYA at all.😃👍 How do we do it? The answer is, pure TEAMWORK. Honestly, I wouldn’t be able to handle it very well if I don’t have a very helpful & thoughtful husband like Lloyd. So thank God for blessing me with a devoted partner like him!🙏🏻❤️ In the Philippines, having a yaya at home became somewhat like part of our tradition already. Most of us in the country are used to growing up with yayas around us, whether a family is rich or not. Now that I’m residing here in the UK, I’ve learned to become more independent ‘coz having a yaya isn’t really practiced here. It feels so liberating it teaches you to become tougher & vastly resilient in life. I’m glad I’ve set myself mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually ready before migrating here, so I’ve let go of my yaya before Lloyd & I got married. Now, I could never imagine Amelia being looked after by a Yaya ever! It feels so good to be able to watch every inch of her development & be able to bond with her each day, hence, she’s one of the happiest & most affectionate babies I have ever seen! This kind of vital relationship will positively impact a child's physical, mental & emotional well-being. Studies show that the benefits of parental involvement are manifold, affecting numerous areas of a child's life, including health, academic progress & life choices. As what a certified parenting instructor, Julie Johnson said, ‘Special Time’ will help you to attune to your baby’s mind & emotions; you’ll become familiar with his/her signals & have the chance to respond in a warm, unhurried, caring way. It’s this back & forth communication, also known as contingent communication, that shapes the architecture of a child’s brain. You pour your attention in ‘til your love falls into its rightful place inside him/her. Sometimes both parents may be too busy working, but try your best to carve out a few min. each day for Special Time with your baby no matter how tired you are coz you’re taking an important opportunity to stimulate your baby’s brain & building a healthy emotional attachment. #TheBirchmores @niceprintphoto
“I’m proud to say that Lloyd and I are very #HandsOnParents. When I say hands-on, no household help/no yaya (nanny) at all,” she said.
She credits teamwork with her husband for this achievement. “Honestly, I wouldn’t be able to handle it very well if I don’t have a very helpful and thoughtful husband like Lloyd.”
She pointed out that in Filipino culture, having a nanny is common. And though the extra set of hands is no doubt a huge help, she appreciates doing things on her own. She said that even before marrying Birchmore, she prepared herself to be able to “let go” of her nanny.
“Now that I’m residing here in the UK, I’ve learned to become more independent [because] having a yaya isn’t really practiced here,” she said. “It feels so liberating; it teaches you to become tougher and vastly resilient in life.”
Parenting is now full-time work for Garcia and she appreciates seeing Amelia grow.
“Now, I could never imagine Amelia being looked after by a Yaya ever!” she said.
“It feels so good to be able to watch every inch of her development and be able to bond with her each day, hence, she’s one of the happiest and most affectionate babies I have ever seen!”
She encouraged parents to spend time with their children as it helps with the child’s development and has long-term effects on aspects like health and academic progress.
Garcia has been open about her motherhood journey, from losing baby weight to showing how her husband is a doting dad.
The couple married in 2016 and had a total of three weddings to show their commitment to each other. /ra
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