If you are the type of person who gets conscious about what other people say about you, Solenn Heussaff tells you to stop and care less about it.
Bianca Gonzalez is once again trying to help someone with her problem in the latest “Paano Ba ‘To?” vlog posted Monday. This time, she asked Heussaff to solve “Miss Affected Much’s” problem. The anonymous letter sender wrote that she was dependent on what people said, such that it would already affect her personal happiness.
Heussaff first advised the sender to accept that there are people who send negativity to others. The reason is such people are unhappy with their own lives.
She added that you cannot please anyone—whether positive or negative, there will always be someone calling you out. To fight them off, the actress said that you must learn how to be comfortable with yourself, and she does this through a “growth list” where she jots down all the things she is uncomfortable with.
And for people who are afraid to voice out how they feel and tend to keep their thoughts to themselves, Heussaff said that they should “do it little by little.”
“You really need to know yourself; because at the end of the day, what other people say, they do not know who you are,” Heussaff told the letter sender.
Heussaff also said that one way of learning how to be comfortable with yourself is by traveling alone. “You do get to know who you are when you are alone and in the unknown,” Gonzalez explained the actress’ point.
While Heussaff noted that there are people who hide through their social media accounts, Heussaff brushed them off, saying that people should feel pity for them instead. Both also advised that people should learn how to put their phones down and live in the real world.
Heussaff admitted she deletes comments from bashers and tells herself constantly “Tomorrow is gonna be fine,” but noted that harsh comments can get to you if you see it over and over again.
Lastly, the actress encouraged the letter sender to surround herself with positive people and tell them whatever problem that will come her way instead of bottling it up to herself.
“I’m happier than them,” Heussaff said about her bashers. “That’s how you should just see it.” Gonzalez added: “Be happy, I think that’s the best way to like make them go away.” /ra
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