Love lessons from the stars

SHALANI Soledad

Love is a good teacher if we are willing to learn. In the spirit of V-Day, I asked some celebrities for the best love advice they ever received.

Having survived many love battles, one of the lessons I picked up along the way  would be this: We can’t expect our partners to love us exactly the way we want to be loved. Just because their style of loving is different from ours, it doesn’t mean they love us less. We should just let them love us the way they know best.

Whether Feb. 14 will be a red-hot or red-alert day, may you learn love’s lessons well and know them by heart, should Cupid strike unexpectedly.

Leo Valdez: Love is just like water in a dam that requires good planning to provide just the right supply of water that flows over to irrigate a field of flowers in a farm. Have too much supply of water and the plants will be over-watered and wilt. Have very little of it and the plant will dry up and won’t bear vibrant flowers or, worse, even die. Continuous effort to ensure just the right amount of water will guarantee plants that will flower abundantly.

Shalani Soledad: When loving someone, don’t forget to love yourself, too.

Richard Gomez:  If you want to marry someone, you should have no doubt at all. Think it over again and again because that doubt will remain.

RICHARD Gomez

Aiko Melendez: Don’t make major decisions when you’re emotional.

Ryan Agoncillo: No matter how long you have loved, no matter how deeply, always express appreciation to the special people who share pieces of their lives with you. Gratitude is one of those pure elements that make relationships deep, rich and meaningful. A happy life is a life full of gratitude. I have my family and friends to be thankful for, really!

Amy Perez: Kris Aquino told me once that we should not tell our family and friends about our problems with our boyfriends/husbands unless we are  sure to split up with them already. It would be awkward if we get back together because our friends/family will have a different view of the guys already after we told them all the bad stuff. In short, we girls should control our urge to have a “press con” when we’re hurt so there will still be some respect left for our partners if we reconcile.

Edgar Allan Guzman: I have learned love lessons the hard way. From all the lovespeak, I have realized that relationships fail when communication is unclear, when truth is violated, when integrity is forsaken, when time isn’t invested, when risks are not taken, when control is the goal, when trust is broken, when self-interest is the rule and when God is ignored. So, I’m working on these now. I’m taking my time being the best of who I can be so when I fall in love, I’ll be my best this time!

RYAN Agoncillo

Derek Ramsay: Listen to nobody else except yourself and your mom.

Jennylyn Mercado: Life is short. So when you love, give it your all so you will have no regrets.

Rita Avila: Love can come in only after we get over the “in love” stage (which usually lasts for two years). Falling in love requires no effort. It is simply feeling high. Everything is easy and magical. After this stage comes reality. When you exert effort to show your love, when you want to surpass trials to be strong and when you still want to go on because you are happy then it must be love.

Kim Atienza: Make sure you do everything to have a happy wife so you’ll have a happy life.

Juris: If everyone focuses on giving 100 percent, taking/receiving will not be an issue in a relationship, and no one will ever feel that anything is lacking anywhere.