Pokwang. Image: screengrab from YouTube/Karen Davila
Pokwang appealed to the public to let her speak about her pain over her previous relationship with Lee O’Brian, admitting she gets hurt when fellow women—whom she expects to understand her the most—criticize her for doing such.
The comedian said this after Karen Davila asked how she feels when people tell her not to be “bitter” toward O’Brian, as seen in the broadcaster’s YouTube vlog on Thursday, May 18.
“Wala kasi kayo sa sitwasyon ko. Madaling sabihin na, ‘Mag-move on ka na. Bitter ka,’ kasi hindi kayo ang nakakaranas ngayon ng pain,” she said. “Walang sugat na malalim na takpan mo lang [bandage] ay OK na.”
([They] are not in the same situation as me. It’s easy for them to say, “Move on. You are bitter,” because they are not the one experiencing the pain. A deep wound won’t heal with just a bandage.)
“Ang sugat, naghi-heal ‘yan nang unti-unti. Hayaan niyo na lang muna ako sumigaw kasi mahapdi,” she continued. (Wounds eventually heal. Please let me express [my pain] for now because it still hurts.)
Pokwang lamented how she receives such comments mostly from women, who supposedly painted her as the bad guy because she has been publicly expressing her sentiments against O’Brian.
“Ang masakit pa [ay] kapwa ko babae ‘yung mga nanggaganyan sa akin—mga nanay. Nanay kayo, babae kayo [pero] hindi niyo ako nage-gets?” she stressed. (What’s more painful is the fact that most of those who [criticize] me are women—mothers. You are a mother, a woman, but why don’t you understand me?)
Pokwang then turned emotional when she recounted the moment she realized she had had enough and that she already needed to let go of her relationship with O’Brian.
“[Nung] nakita kong umiyak ang anak ko,” she recalled, referring to their daughter Malia. “Tuwing gabi kasi nagpe-pray ‘yung bata… Meron siyang isang dasal na, ‘Thank you kay Mama. Si Dada bahala na po kayo sa kanya kung hindi na siya babalik sa amin.'”
(When I saw my child cried… Every night she says a prayer, then she prayed one night, “Thank you for Mama and [please take care] of Dada if he doesn’t come home to us.)
“Napaka-unselfish nung bata, then umiyak siya. Nung nakita kong umiyak ‘yung anak ko, that’s it,” Pokwang said. (The child was so unselfish, then she cried. When I saw her crying, that was it.)
When asked if she wants to take another chance at love, Pokwang said that she leaves everything in God’s hands and that working hard for her children is her priority now. Pokwang has another child, Mae, from a past relationship. /ra